When your child is a cute toddler and in elementary school you are looking for a certain type of guardian and will make your choice based on what your child would need at that stage of their life.

Your brother was a good choice to raise your daughter if something happened to you and your spouse when she was cute and cuddly...

Your brother was a good choice to raise your daughter if something happened to you and your spouse when she was cute and cuddly…

When your child is a teenager, your child will need a guardian with a different skill set.

It might be the same one, especially if your children are similar in age, or it might not.

It’s also possible that your guardian’s life circumstances have changed so that it’s just no longer a good fit; a move, poor lifestyle choices, poor relationship choices, substance abuse, other addictions, etc.

Whatever the reason, when you know it’s no longer a fit you should move swiftly and update your will with your new choice.

...but is he still a good choice now that she's a teenager?

…but is he still a good choice now that she’s a teenager?

The old will and all copies of it should be destroyed to avoid confusion.

You should never keep this change a secret. Let the old guardian know as well as any other interested parties.

This way, there is no question about what your wishes were and it reduces the risk of someone challenging your updated will.

Keep your will updated so that it’s always consistent with your objectives and the ever-changing needs of your child.